That’s why you are cautioned not to share toys or lube between partners. Unlike HIV, hep C is a hardy virus that can hang around for a long time. Other STIs including hepatitis C might be more likely to be passed between partners in blood or anal mucous on the fist. You should still talk about your HIV status with your partner and what precautions are appropriate to prevent HIV transmission. Often, even if fucking isn’t part of the scene a top will jerk his cock while fisting his partner, so cum or precum can enter the fray. However, fisting rarely happens in isolation from other sex. The risk of transmitting or getting HIV from fisting is really low since HIV might only be passed between partners if there is an open wound on the fister’s hand. Step 4: Prevent STIs & other infectionsĪny sex comes with the possibility of sexually transmitted infections, and fisting is no exception. You may need to be patient-use the time to keep stretching your hole, it will pay off when you play. Pick someone you’re comfortable with, and that you trust. They should play with you before trying to fist you so that you have time to relax. Your top needs to know that your muscles need to be relaxed before they can proceed. If you’re new to fisting as a bottom, you’re probably going to want to find someone who has experience as a fisting top. Once you work your way up to a size that’s similar to someone’s fist, it’s now time to find yourself a top. I didn’t go too fast-you want to feel a stretch, but no pain. To train for my first fist I found a plug-shaped toy that I used every other day (if not every day) to stretch my hole. Using a long, tapered toy (that starts small but increases in width the higher it goes up your butt) will help your butt get used to larger sizes. You have two muscles that need to relax in order for you to take anything up your butt: your internal and external anal sphincters. And unless you’ve got a very patient and enthusiastic partner, you’re probably going to need to invest in a suitable toy. Very few people are going to be able to take a fist without first training their ass. You can find advice for how best to mix it if you search online. It can be a bitch to get the recipe right. J-Lube comes as a concentrated powder that you mix with an amount of water that gives you the consistency you want. Start trying out different brands of lube with a toy to see which ones you like. Here are my best tips on taking care of your ass if you want to try fisting. But there are a few things you can do to make your fisting experiences more enjoyable. A huge part of it for me-especially in the beginning-was the mind fuck of “I’ve got someone’s fist in my ass!”Ī big part of fisting is intuition and instinct. You’re fueled by a desire to push your desire as far as you can.
Part of what can make kink so attractive is that you’re deviating from what people think of as “appropriate” or “right.” There’s an exotic and erotic power to it. Like all kinds of sex, it’s partly mental and partly physical.
It can be (if done right) utterly mind-blowing. Or that you have to be some sort of superhuman or freak to enjoy it. If you’ve never been fisted (or fisted someone) before, you might think it’s not for you. So I went on a mission to train my ass to take a fist. I decided I never wanted to be in that situation again-so badly wanting to give a sexual partner something they want me to give them, but absolutely unable to.
I really wanted to give him what he wanted, so I gave it my best shot, but I just wasn’t ready. Never going to happen.īut ten or so years later I was playing with a really, REALLY hot guy, and he really wanted to fist me. The first time I heard about fisting, I thought: No.